I've never been a debater. I do not enjoy the emotional strife that rises in me when people are..erm..sharing their opinions with passion. To be honest, I avoid all things controversial. This might go against that..so hold on to your britches.
Last night I was having a chat with a friend as she was telling me about a woman whose motto for her writing is "be the bigger yes". Meaning instead of being extremely passionate AGAINST banishing abortion be FOR sharing the joy and blessing of life. Instead of being AGAINST scantily clad models be FOR healthy self esteem/imagine of young girls and women.
Fast forward to today. I read an article that is making its rounds on Facebook about a lady that was a former porn star. The article addresses the "if the porn industry is so bad why do people stay?" comment.
This woman was talking about how "bad" some of the scenes she had to do back in the early 90's were compared to what girls have to do now. She talked about becoming burnt out from being a prostitute, so she went to porn then stripping. Just to survive. She said the thing that fuelled her to stay "in" this business was rage. This came from brokenness in her family, exposure to sexual abuse from male and female parties at a young age and the desire to be loved.
She left the industry and it took her years and years to recover. Praise the Lord.
Her story broke my heart.
I started praying for her and other people like her. It dawned on me that people in Industries like porn, strip clubs or prostitution most likely don't need to be told its harmful to them. I would venture a guess that most of them know that. So people who are saying "stop this" or "why do they stay?"...probably aren't helping. But what is bigger yes to this?
How do we speak the bigger yes? What does it look like? How do I pray the bigger yes?
I've never been a stripper, prostitute or been filmed in a pornographic movie. But I have been so afraid and blinded to light, freedom and love that I would RATHER sit in the frustration and darkness of the hurt/pain/struggle then "get better". I'm not in that place anymore because people and Jesus told me my value. He told me that I was worth His life. He was patient and never told me how ridiculous I was for clinging to the things that were cutting up my heart. He spoke to me this verse..
Hebrews 6:19-20 "we have this as a sure and steadfast anchor of the soul, a HOPE that enters in the inner place behind the curtain, where Jesus has gone as a forerunner on our behalf, having become a high priest forever after the order of Melchizedek."
I want to do the same for these women. Porn and sexual things are such a hot topic. So many opinions. so much aggression. But we can change that.
It hit me today that they need to be fought for and valued. My bigger yes needs to be telling people their value. If more people know how precious they are they won't be insecure and feel the need to damage themselves or others. Then they will share the value with others and it will catapult.
More people need Jesus as the anchor of their souls. Jesus is the bigger yes.
